I think for a lot of us there’s a huge disconnect between what we were thinking life would be like and what it actually is. 

I’m not saying it’s your fault (which others might be saying).  But sometimes we have to figure out how to adapt, and the only person who can start that process is you.  Whether you need to work on new ways of communicating, finding new passions, being more patient, or more engaged, or finding a way to look at yourself in the mirror, that is all work we can do together. 

Figuring out how to be a healthy adult male certainly did not wait for me to create a perfect game plan before I had a job, a marriage, kids, a new job, friends, funerals, and trauma to deal with. There was no shot clock, no down marker, no score, and no win/loss record.  I know what it’s like to not be sure if you’re winning or losing.

It may seem like everyone else is winning at life, and when you look at all the chaos in yours, you feel like you must not be.  So we have to stop comparing, and explore who you are and who you want to be. I’m talking about self-leadership.